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Thursday, June 25, 2009

Social Networking and a Rant on Morons

Wifester and I met online.
It's true. We chatted and emailed and eventually talked on the phone for a while until the day we decided to meet in real life. So right off the bat, I'm quite grateful to the wondrous joys that Social Networking can bring into one's life.
There's another side to it though, I mean, besides the icky stuff we hear about on Dateline...
I'm talking about the finding of old "friends" from long ago... getting reacquainted, seeing photos of each other's respective families, and then, as is often the situation in my case, NEVER hearing from them again. Or, worse yet, being bombarded with religious propaganda eluding to the sure detriment of my soul's very survival should I continue my homosexual lifestyle.
I'd rather just never hear from you again. Even if we WERE BFF's way back when.

But recently, I stumbled upon an old friend from high school who I knew was not going to be quite so judgmental and, to boot, happens to be an artist, himself. I was quite thrilled when we made contact with each other and began conversation. His art was always some of my favorite. In high school, he did all of the graphics for our year book. He worked at Opryland sketching those funny charactures of people, so if you ever got one done there, High School Buddy may have drawn it.
Well, High School Buddy took some time and looked over my blogs and photo albums and wrote to me saying that he liked my art and thought I should give it a go with some galleries. He even gave me email addresses and names to contact... The first one told me they like my stuff, but it's just not what they are looking for at this moment. Yadda, yadda, yadda...High School Buddy says he's amazed that they are showing who they are showing right now, yet not interested in my Divas and City scapes. I'm just flattered that someone, anyone thinks anything I have is gallery worthy.
The second gallery has emailed me back, but they would like for me to have a professional portfolio with an artist's resume made up. They will show my art, and are excited to be able to say that I am an "untrained artist", but I need to do these things first. The exciting news is that the gallery is in The Arcade
, which is the epicenter of Nashville's Arts district. It hosts a monthly Art Crawl which draws thousands of people. So I could get a lot of exposure. The bad news is, it costs money, a pretty good amount of money, to have a professional portfolio and artist's resume done. Another gallery responded that they really like the divas, and would like to place them in a show in the future, and will keep in contact with me for a later date. To me, that's a "don't call us, we'll call you..."
I've submitted my digital portfolio to a few more galleries, asking if they are accepting new artists. I've burned candles and chanted into the wind. I've asked Isis, Allah, Buddah, and Ani Difranco for some positive energy to flow my way and help me gain the break I've been looking for.
Regardless of how all that turns out, I'm happy to be back in touch with High School Buddy. And I'm grateful that he's been so quick to want to help me advance my art.
I was amazed, yet also not surprised to find out that High School Buddy and his High School Sweetheart married 15 years ago and are still blissfully wed. That makes it like 20 years that they've been together, and I think that is a rare thing these days. Kudos to High School Buddy and his High School Sweetheart!

I don't know where all of this is going, except I just wanted to fill you in on why I've been a bit absent and missed another WWC...
Trying to talk to and submit to galleries is a lot more work than I realized! Keep me in your thoughts and send some good vibes on over this way, if you get a moment to spare, I can use all of them I can get! :) Maybe one day, before we're all too old to read blogs, just maybe I'll get my foot (or art) in the doors of one of those galleries.
Hey! Let a girl dream!

Now, on to the Moron Rant:

I'm taking a sociology class right now. Well, we have to post an answer to a discussion topic each week on the discussion board. This week''s question was in reference to the "changing family unit" and how we felt about it, ie: should we as a society adapt our image of family to adapt with the changing times.
This gal posted her response, or I should call it her tirade about the changing family unit. Referring to our text book, she said, among other things, I've narrowed this down to the really offensive stuff and left out a lot of the babbling:
note:stuff in ****BOLD ****are just my thoughts/interjections ;)

"The author says "We need to unmask the rhetoric that insists that affirmation of civil marriage and church blessings of holy unions somehow demeans marriage for heterosexuals.” (Ruther’s page 284.) Wow who died and made this women god? There is an obvious reason for a family structure that exists around a man married to women. Two a child whose parents love each others this teaches the childrens that selflessness leads to true happiness. Children learn mostly by examples. The other option would be the selfish path you know the me, me me life style or just the opposite of what Jesus Christ taught, like the homo's live. I mena, Did God give the women a vagina and the man a pennies by mistake? ***** ( Pennies? Really? I mean, it has been a while since I've seen a man's penny, but I would have given them quarters, at least) *****Honestly what the hell is this society coming to? Every time I turn on the TV I see to guys kissing each other or worse yet, two women having sex with each other. ****{ I want to know what channel she's watching, because I need to call comcast and get it!} ****What on earth does all that crap teach our kids? Hey life’s about you and your sexual desires not much else really matters. You can tell your son hey instead of having sex with a women try it with man the only thing that really different is the plumbing. Yeah right! I am sure it is our selfish desires that allude to this kind of stupid bull crap of raising kids in these other immoral ideas of the family. Anyways that my thoughts and feelings I hope I did not offend anyone, if I did let me have it. I do however think its important to stand up for what I believe is right. And I do not believe that two queers calling themselves a family is right. They can't just go around and give themselves rings and call that a marriage. God didn't sanctify it so its bull crap, its a sham, and worst of all, its a sin."


Yeah. First of all, learn to spell before you start condemning people in a public forum, right? So anyways, the next part of our assignment is to respond to at least three people's posts...hmmmm...I wonder who's post I chose to respond to first? :)

So here's my response to her:

I have to take many issues with your post. 1. The argument is often made that same sex marriage would threaten the institution of marriage. This is a contradiction, in and of itself. Allowing people to commit themselves to each other regardless of gender, is not a threat to marriage. When homosexuals are allowed to marry, they are less likely to attempt heterosexual marriage first, just to fit in with society's norm, causing them to be matched with an incompatible partner and possibly raising children in a loveless home, only to end in divorce. Further, studies have shown that children of divorce are more likely to have failed marriages themselves. Denying gays the right to marriage contributes to the divorce rate, rather than protecting the institution of marriage. And then what does that teach those children? That it's OK to be in loveless marriages? That it's OK to end a commitment made "till death do us part"?
2. The argument that marriage is a sacred institution is biased in design and based on the assumption that the state has the responsibility to "sanctify" marriages - a fundamentally religious idea. This is an example of one set of people trying to enforce their religious doctrines upon others. In this instance, it is an attempt to do so through weakening the separation of church and state, by undermining the Bill of Rights. (Sullivan, 2008) Although this is not a new concept in American politics, the attempt itself opposes the foundations, the very fiber of the First Amendment - one does not truly have freedom of religion if one does not have the right to freedom from religion as well. The only marriage affected by two people marrying, is the marriage being entered into by the two people marrying each other.
3. The General Assembly of the United Nations unanimously adopted the Universal Declaration of Human Rights in 1948, which cited the "right to marry" as one of the fundamental rights of humankind. (U.N. General Assembly, 1948) In 1967, the historic Supreme Court decision was made in the case of Loving v. Virginia. It proclaimed that the ban on interracial marriage was "designed to maintain White Supremacy" and therefore, unconstitutional. Further, it said that in denying the right to marry the person of one's choice, the fundamental civil right to marriage had been denied.
There is no difference between my marriage to another woman today, and the interracial marriages that the Supreme Court ruled in favor of in 1967. (and yes, it is a marriage, we flew to Canada where we were issued a legal license that is recognized in over 20 civilized countries) It still boils down to two consenting adults who love each other, wanting to commit to each other for a lifetime of togetherness and nurturing. Contrary to what you believe, it has much less to do with sex and much more to do with love. And if you think love and sex are one in the same, well, that is a whole different discussion for another day.

So then she comes back and responds to me with :

I believe you may have misunderstood where the scared institution actually started, and it has nothing to do with the state's ruling on what a marriage is. The scanty of marriage came from the bibles instruction of what a marriage should be. A man and a woman. How do you figure denying gay rights to marry would increase the rate of divorce. It sounds as if you may have some issues your self about homosexual relationships. Are you in that type relationship? It has nothing to do with religious doctrine read the bible for yourself and see what it says concerning gay relationships. No one is forcing religion on any one, you do have the freedom to not be religious. Have you ever heard of anyone going to jail for believing in God. ****( Um HELLO?? Have you ever taken a HISTORY class, like EVER??) ****Yes everyone has the right to marry whom ever they want to. ****(No, honey, not everyone. That's why all us queers keep marching the streets!)**** Society stereo-tpyed those relationships(blacks and whites) It had nothing to do with religion. I hope my comments have not offended you in any way.


OMG! Am I really in school with this person?? I can't begin to tell you how agast I am that someone would even say Have you ever heard of anyone going to jail for believing in God...So apparently she had a conversation or something with the Prof. because the next day there was this:

it appears that I may have offended you with my question and comments and I want to publicly apologize to you before the class and Professor Dr. Jones.. I am asking that you forgive any offensive comments to your post. I need to hear back from you to know that my apology has been accepted. A speedy reply is requested.


Maybe I'm being petty, but I think that if I am being asked to accept an apology, I shouldn't be given time constraints on that apology. But in the spirit of good nature, here's what I said next:

Of course I accept your apology. I note that you questioned if I were myself, in a homosexual relationship,and that gives me cause to believe that you may not have fully read my post. Yes, I am in fact in a same sex relationship, and was married to my partner two years ago. I do not misunderstand where the institution of marriage originated, if you conduct your own research, beyond that of the bible, and use some scholastic journals and historical references, you may be surprised to find that marriage was around long before religion and had nothing to do with anything sacred, but was more so a barter and trade system.
If you would like to discuss what the bible says, I would recommend you do so in bible study class, not in a college level course in a public school. Again, we come to a separation of church and state issue. You asked if I've ever heard of anyone going to jail for believing in God, and, as a matter of fact, yes, history is ridden with tales of people being imprisoned for their religious beliefs, and for their opposition to popular religious beliefs. That was one of the reasons that the United States was founded. Again, research conducted on this topic via scholastic journals and historical references will help you to find this information. It really is quite intriguing and well worth the read.
I have not been offended by your remarks, I simply look at them as an opportunity to educate a fellow citizen and help illuminate some facts around an issue that is in fact, near and dear to my own heart.

I received an email from my Prof. today asking if I want to file a formal complaint against the student. I'm contemplating if it's even worth my time.

4 cookies cracked:

Karen said...

I am sorry you had to deal with that person. Someone should never argue "history" unless they have the facts to back it up and ignorance is just not attractive.

I say file a complaint. You seem to be the type of person who wouldn't shy away from standing up for yourself and your beliefs. The Moron could clearly use a lesson.

Gary Rith Pottery Blog said...

she said "a man's pennies"?

MagMom said...

I wouldn't waste your vehemence on filing a complaint. It's obvious that the other poster isn't the smartest tool (how appropo) in the shed. Your filing of a complaint would just give her another reason to be a homophobe. I'd leave it alone as your response was civil, informative and accurate.

g-man said...

Holy crap!

1. My wife and I met online too, yea us!

2. Congrats on the helping hand, sometimes it is nice to reconnect with old friends. He sounds very nice, good luck with the galleries.

3. I think that chick has penny issues of her own. I mean Jesus went to jail for believing in God, as did a bunch of people in the Bible. I had to laugh at "Anyone can marry" 'cept you queers. What a moron. You certainly had the title right.