I laughed. Not a full hearted, ha ha that's funny laugh, but a nervous, Yeah, I know what you mean, kind of laugh. Wifey has such clear perspective sometimes, it's frightening.
Monday, June 2, 2008
Meet the Parents
I laughed. Not a full hearted, ha ha that's funny laugh, but a nervous, Yeah, I know what you mean, kind of laugh. Wifey has such clear perspective sometimes, it's frightening.
Labels:
anxiety,
dinner with the family,
family relations,
OCD
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It is really great that you are making progress with your parents.
Remember Archie Bunker? My father's twin. I don't want to be anything like my father.
Even a little bit of progress is still progress right?
karen - yes, it is, i fully agree.
gr- oh my grandpa was your father's twin?! That makes us some kind of cousins! lol No wonder I like you so :)
Jay- very true. yes and I am appreciative of it fo-sho!
Still, it must be a relief to be getting on better, or at least feeling more comfortable with
h the parents, and they with you. I hated algebra (and had a HORRIBLE teacher) - loved geometry - because I liked to draw neat angles and make everything tidy. Go figure. Then, to get to go to college a year early (to Vanderbilt), I had to take algebra-trig in summer school. What a nightmare. But at least when I got to Vanderbilt I could drop one subject. I dropped math. Surprise, surprise! But you and your dad turned out to be math wizards. Interesting. I would have thought if you hated something so much, it would never click. Maybe you didn't hate it quite as much as I did! And I still say I've never ONCE needed algebra in the "real world"...
Isn't it interesting how we form somewhat different relationships with our parents, once we are adults ourselves? It can seem like starting a whole new relationship, and I suppose that after 6 years apart, that is a good goal.
I suppose in a truly disfunctional situation, parents never let go of their control over kids' lives.
Luckily, mine have managed to each let go and see me as an adult.
chatty- funny, I find myself saying, wow, I really do use algebra every day! but it goes with the job.
kcinnova- a much different relationship is certainly in order in this situation. lets just hope it turns out to be a bit more functional.