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Thursday, February 26, 2009

Taking Stock

Wifester won't let me tell you about this wonderful conversation we had today. Something about privacy and coworkers and stuff. Eh... that's alright. I can still tell you some other fun stuff.
Like the fact that when she realized that The Office was a rerun tonight, she pouted. I, being the optimist that I try to be, said that's OK, we can watch the Top Chef finale that we missed last night. She chimed in, Oh no, I'll still be watching The Office. Really, Wifester? Really? Cause I'm pretty sure you've seen this exact episode at least four times already, and you have it on DVD...guess what I'm sitting here watching right now?
Michael Scott is friggin' hilarious, though, I have to admit.
Although, I am just about to go watch Maddow in the other room, then join her again for 30 Rock... Occasionally I can actually get her to watch The Daily Show.
I keep her informed of the goings on in Washington and she reminds me to laugh.
Symbiotic. We work well to balance each other out.
I've found myself evaluating our relationship a lot lately. Years of therapy have taught me to be introspective in order to obtain a more clear perspective. I find that taking my personal inventory today is much easier than it was back in the early days when I was first learning to do it, and it's kind of fun to learn a little and grow a little. I'm weird that way.
In taking stock of my relationship, I found myself pondering why I would be taking my relationship's inventory and evaluating it with such a scrutinous eye. I've come to multiple, interweaved conclusions:
1. Because I keep watching our friends' relationships dissolve around us
2. Because our country doesn't recognize our marriage
3. Because my own parents don't acknowledge our relationship
4. Because I love her more than I ever thought I could possibly love another person and I just
don't want to see our relationship fail.

I imagine that's healthy, natural even to look at your relationship and evaluate. I don't doubt our strength. In fact the more I look at us, the better I feel about us. That's reassuring to me. I can't honestly say that I've ever had that in my life before. I suppose that's one of the reasons I married her.
One of our friends was here one day and she said to us " Oh, you guys are the perfect couple" and I thought Yeah, we are, aren't we? I can't think of anyone on this planet that I'd rather spend my time with. Honestly. And isn't that how it's supposed to be? I think it is...
But I see all these couples around me who seem to be tired of each other's company, exhausted with one another. Exasperated.
Not Wifester and I. With each day that passes, each year that passes, I only love her all the more. I am more and more excited to see her at the end of a long day of work . She's not just my Wifester, she's my best friend, my confidant, my muse and my motivator.
I don't get why that's so offensive to some people. I mean, aren't we all just supposed to nurture and support and love one another anyways? Wouldn't it be nice if everyone got that concept? I mean really got it.
I guess that's the kind of thinking that makes Wifester lovingly call me a modern day hippie.
I'm OK with that. I really wouldn't have it any other way.

3 cookies cracked:

3continentfamily said...

That was beautiful. And there *is* nothing offensive about your relationship. People who think so are probably missing something in their own lives.

Steve Morozumi said...

i'm gushing! you gals are the sweetest!

-Steve @ fluxlife

Little Miss Sunshine State said...

That's what so many close-minded people don't "get".
You describe your marriage the same way I describe my marriage to my husband. Why can't they get that your marriage is the same as mine?

With so many marriages that are bad these days, we need to bless and celebrate ALL the ones that are good.